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stop dreading 'the talk' and become the go-to expert for your child

How to  have comprehensive, comfortable, and casual conversations with your child about sex without the brutally-awkward-one-time-sit-down-sweaty-palm conversion. 

 Annihilate the awkward and step up as the go-to expert for your kid with our companion course perfect for any parent or caregiver who understands the importance of equipping their child when it comes to having “the talk” but doesn’t quite know where to start or just doesn’t have the words.

stop dreading 'the talk' and become the go-to expert for your child

How to  have comprehensive, comfortable, and casual conversations with your child about sex without the brutally-awkward-one-time-sit-down-sweaty-palm conversion. 

 Annihilate the awkward and step up as the go-to expert for your kid with our companion course perfect for any parent or caregiver who understands the importance of equipping their child when it comes to having “the talk” but doesn’t quite know where to start or just doesn’t have the words.

We get it...

Just the thought of talking to your kids about sex is daunting. In a world that says it has to be this brutally-awkward-one-time-sit-down-sweaty-palm conversion...

Who would want to have “the talk”?!  

We get it...

Just the thought of talking to your kids about sex is daunting. In a world that says it has to be this brutally-awkward-one-time-sit-down-sweaty-palm conversion...

Who would want to have “the talk”?!  

But that doesn’t mean you can stick your head in the sand or go hide under a rock… even if you want to!
Most parents and care-givers know this topic is crazy important but can’t find the words to talk to their kids.

It’s like being asked to speak a foreign language with no training.  (Impossible!)
Plus… there’s a laundry list of ways this conversation could go tragically wrong… 
But that doesn’t mean you can stick your head in the sand or go hide under a rock… even if you want to!
Most parents and care-givers know this topic is crazy important but can’t find the words to talk to their kids.

It’s like being asked to speak a foreign language with no training.  (Impossible!)
Plus… there’s a laundry list of ways this conversation could go tragically wrong… 

You’re likely worried you will:

Mess it up - say something wrong, somehow scare your kids, or worse yet scar them.
Have to answer personal questions about your own sex life or sexual experiences (Ugh... TMI) 
If you bring up this topic you are opening a can of worms that will prompt your kids to go have sex at a very early age.  
Corrupt your kids.
Take away your kids innocence.

We get it… at this point, you’re afraid you’ll do more harm than good. But here’s the problem with avoiding this critical topic (actually there are several problems)… 

Not equipping our children with this critical knowledge can lead to kids that:

  • Don’t Know How To Give Or Receive Consent Properly. 
  • Are Less Likely To Be Protected Against Sexual Assault.
  • Don’t Understand How To Give Or Receive Rejection Properly.
  • ​Develop A Negative Body Image.
  • ​Have Guilt Or Shame About Sex Later In Life, Whether Or Not They Have Been Sexually Active.
  • ​Feel Shame Around Sex That Could Impact Their Relationships And Future Partner.

We get it… at this point, you’re afraid you’ll do more harm than good. But here’s the problem with avoiding this critical topic (actually there are several problems)… 

Not equipping our children with this critical knowledge can lead to kids that:

  • Don’t Know How To Give Or Receive Consent Properly. 
  • Are Less Likely To Be Protected Against Sexual Assault.
  • Don’t Understand How To Give Or Receive Rejection Properly.
  • ​Develop A Negative Body Image.
  • ​Have Guilt Or Shame About Sex Later In Life, Whether Or Not They Have Been Sexually Active.
  • ​Feel Shame Around Sex That Could Impact Their Relationships And Future Partner.

Here’s the reality… If you don’t have these critical conversations with your kids, someone else will!

And it will most likely be…
Their friends or The ‘Google’ YIKES!

Talk about a disaster waiting to happen.

Plus, one of the most critical reasons to start this conversation with your kids early is… YOU can become their go-to expert on all these challenging topics…  This is especially important if you want to increase the likelihood of their values aligning with yours!

Look… there’s NO JUDGEMENT HERE!

The bottom line is, for most of us, this experience wasn’t modeled well! So unfortunately we just default to what we do know and use the same method as our parents i.e. (avoid it, hand them a book, talk one time about “the birds & bees,” or use some version of scare tactics).

Growing up, as so many people experienced, no one really talked about sex. The message from parents was “just don’t have sex,” for others, it was “we don’t talk about that”.

That was it. There was no discussion, there was no education.

It sounded great at the time. Clean & easy. A neat little package, but it sure didn’t equip you as a parent with the knowledge or resources to have these critical conversations with your child.

What we know now is that not only does this approach not work, but more than that, the overarching message can leave a child feeling confused, and often filled with guilt and shame.

Here’s the reality… If you don’t have these critical conversations with your kids, someone else will!

And it will most likely be…
Their friends or The ‘Google’ YIKES!

Talk about a disaster waiting to happen...

Plus, one of the most critical reasons to start this conversation with your kids early is… YOU can become their go-to expert on all these challenging topics…  This is especially important if you want to increase the likelihood of their values aligning with yours!

Look… there’s NO JUDGEMENT HERE!

The bottom line is, for most of us, this experience wasn’t modeled well! So unfortunately we just default to what we do know and use the same method as our parents i.e. (avoid it, hand them a book, talk one time about “the birds & bees,” or use some version of scare tactics).

Growing up, as so many people experienced, no one really talked about sex. The message from parents was “just don’t have sex,” for others, it was “we don’t talk about that”.

That was it. There was no discussion, there was no education.

It sounded great at the time. Clean & easy. A neat little package, but it sure didn’t equip you as a parent with the knowledge or resources to have these critical conversations with your child.

What we know now is that not only does this approach not work, but more than that, the overarching message can leave a child feeling confused, and often filled with guilt and shame.

And frankly there are really no easy to consume resources out there that make this a simple process...

Most resources you’ll find are very clinical or talk about trauma related to sex, or speak from a psychological point of view, or only cover one piece of the puzzle.

But very few talk about normal scenarios, cover everything from A-Z, make it simple, include scripts or use audio or video to help you better understand how to navigate these conversations.

Instead, our culture sees this as a one-time, brutally painful and nerve-wracking conversation that has to be awkward… so unfortunately, oftentimes… IT IS!

And frankly there are really no easy to consume resources out there that make this a simple process...

Most resources you’ll find are very clinical or talk about trauma related to sex, or speak from a psychological point of view, or only cover one piece of the puzzle.

But very few talk about normal scenarios, cover everything from A-Z, make it simple, include scripts or use audio or video to help you better understand how to navigate these conversations.

Instead, our culture sees this as a one-time, brutally painful and nerve-wracking conversation that has to be awkward… so unfortunately, oftentimes… IT IS!

You see, according to leading expert Peggy Orenstein this is how most parents feel about talking to their kids about sex…
“most parents would rather poke themselves in the eye with a fork than speak frankly to their child about sex. I can’t say that I blame them: It’s excruciating, and it’s not like our own parents offered a template.”

The good news… that was the old way of thinking, thankfully there’s a new approach that makes having “the talk” so natural and simple (without the cringe) - PROMISE!
Success comes down to SIMPLIFYING the process… because we all know that when we overcomplicate things, we simply tend to avoid them!
Plus it’s important to know exactly what you should say to your child at various stages of this conversation.

As you become the go-to expert, your child will come to YOU (rather than their friends or the internet) when they have questions and that makes all the difference.

It’s about having the strategic tools you need to have these conversations in the everyday moments of life, rather than pushing through the awkward sit down or asking them to read a book.

You see, according to leading expert Peggy Orenstein this is how most parents feel about talking to their kids about sex…
“most parents would rather poke themselves in the eye with a fork than speak frankly to their child about sex. I can’t say that I blame them: It’s excruciating, and it’s not like our own parents offered a template.”

The good news… that was the old way of thinking, thankfully there’s a new approach that makes having “the talk” so natural and simple (without the cringe) - PROMISE!
Success comes down to SIMPLIFYING the process… because we all know that when we overcomplicate things, we simply tend to avoid them!
Plus it’s important to know exactly what you should say to your child at various stages of this conversation.

As you become the go-to expert, your child will come to YOU (rather than their friends or the internet) when they have questions and that makes all the difference.

It’s about having the strategic tools you need to have these conversations in the everyday moments of life, rather than pushing through the awkward sit down or asking them to read a book.

It all comes down to having an amazing relationship with your kids, and setting them up to make good decisions even when you’re not there to help navigate.

You have the opportunity to be the first one to make an impression on your kid and teach them what healthy sex looks like.

Now is the time to lay a strong foundation, through your values, so your kids will be ready to make good decisions about sex, relationships, and their bodies when the stakes get higher.

Together we have an opportunity to provide a different future for this next generation, when it comes to a healthy perspective about sex, body image and relationships.

It all comes down to having an amazing relationship with your kids, and setting them up to make good decisions even when you’re not there to help navigate.

You have the opportunity to be the first one to make an impression on your kid and teach them what healthy sex looks like.

Now is the time to lay a strong foundation, through your values, so your kids will be ready to make good decisions about sex, relationships, and their bodies when the stakes get higher.

Together we have an opportunity to provide a different future for this next generation, when it comes to a healthy perspective about sex, body image and relationships.

introducing

Not. The. Talk.

An online companion course supporting you in having comprehensive, comfortable, and casual conversations with your children about sex. This program includes all the resources you need in one place.
Not. The. Talk. is perfect for any parent or caregiver who understands the importance of equipping their kids when it comes to having “the talk” but doesn’t quite know where to start or just doesn’t have the words.
*This program is for parents with kids 10 and under.
Not.The.Talk uses these 3 Key Principles to give you everything you need for confident, comfortable conversations with your children.  
  • Readiness: Learn to assess your child's readiness for each topic based on more than just age.
  • Facts: Acquire the facts you need to provide your children with evidence-based answers. 
  • Honesty: Refine YOUR values, so you can clearly communicate them to your children, while leaving shame and judgment in the past. Give your kids honest answers (say goodbye to the stork!).

introducing

Not. The. Talk.

An online companion course supporting you in having comprehensive, comfortable, and casual conversations with your children about sex. This program includes all the resources you need in one place.
Not. The. Talk. is perfect for any parent or caregiver who understands the importance of equipping their kids when it comes to having “the talk” but doesn’t quite know where to start or just doesn’t have the words.
*This program is for parents with kids 10 and under.
Not.The.Talk uses these 3 Key Principles to give you everything you need for confident, comfortable conversations with your children.  
  • Readiness: Learn to assess your child's readiness for each topic based on more than just age.
  • Facts: Acquire the facts you need to provide your children with evidence-based answers. 
  • Honesty: Refine YOUR values, so you can clearly communicate them to your children, while leaving shame and judgment in the past. Give your kids honest answers (say goodbye to the stork!).

With Not. The. Talk., you will be ready to... 
  • Confidently Communicate Your Family’s Values To Your Child
  • Help Them Make Good Decisions About Sex Later In Life
  • Add An Extra Layer Of Protection Against Sexual Abuse

All while shielding them from guilt and shame.

With Not. The. Talk. You’ll learn how to:

Break the conversation down into one hundred bite sized conversations so that it doesn't overwhelm you or your kids!
Protect your child's innocence without withholding important information that could actually protect them in the long run.
Know exactly what to say when your kids bring the hard hitting questions so you can stop worrying that you won't have answers when your kid asks a question about sex.
Model open and easy dialogue with your kids so that it becomes second nature in your family to talk frequently in an open way!
And so much More!
With Not. The. Talk., you will be ready to... 
  • Confidently Communicate Your Family’s Values To Your Child
  • Help Them Make Good Decisions About Sex Later In Life
  • Add An Extra Layer Of Protection Against Sexual Abuse

All while shielding them from guilt and shame.

With Not. The. Talk. You’ll learn how to:

Break the conversation down into one hundred bite sized conversations so that it doesn't overwhelm you or your kids!
Protect your child's innocence without withholding important information that could actually protect them in the long run.
Know exactly what to say when your kids bring the hard hitting questions so you can stop worrying that you won't have answers when your kid asks a question about sex.
Model open and easy dialogue with your kids so that it becomes second nature in your family to talk frequently in an open way!
And so much More!
By empowering yourself as a parent, You will...
Be the first one to make an impression on your kid and teach them what healthy sex looks like so that "the Google" doesn't get to them first!
Establish yourself as the expert, so your kids know they can come to you to talk anytime. 
Walk away with the language to communicate facts about sex and determine your values, without passing on any guilt, shame, or fear onto your child. 
By empowering yourself as a parent, You will...
Be the first one to make an impression on your kid and teach them what healthy sex looks like so that "the Google" doesn't get to them first!
Establish yourself as the expert, so your kids know they can come to you to talk anytime. 
Walk away with the language to communicate facts about sex and determine your values, without passing on any guilt, shame, or fear onto your child. 

This is powerful parenting

Turning these once difficult conversations into comfortable conversations will allow you to...
Teach your kids about their bodies
So they can recognize a red flag situation and alert someone they trust immediately with accurate information. 
Avoid scare tactics

That can leave a negative impression around the topic of sex.
Recover from any poorly handled conversations
Instantly build rapport with your child on this topic, perfect for those who feel like they’ve already ‘messed it up’ when it comes to having ‘the talk’.  

This is powerful parenting

Turning these once difficult conversations into comfortable conversations will allow you to...
Teach your kids about their bodies
So they can recognize a red flag situation and alert someone they trust immediately with accurate information. 
Avoid scare tactics
That can leave a negative impression around the topic of sex.
Recover from any poorly handled conversations
Instantly build rapport with your child on this topic, perfect for those who feel like they’ve already ‘messed it up’ when it comes to having ‘the talk’.  

Our inclination can be to avoid telling our kids about sex as a way to protect their innocence. But when has anyone ever made better choices by having less information? 

True empowerment comes when we are able to see the big picture.

Not.The.Talk is your go-to companion course that literally walks you step-by-step through every imaginable conversation and experience you will likely have surrounding ‘the talk’ with your child as they grow and mature.

We break down this process to make this EASY

Yes EASY (not terrifying or embarrassing) and we take out all of the guesswork around actually having “the talk” with your kids.

And don’t worry about if you think this ship has sailed, your kids are too old (or too young) or you’ve completely bombed this conversation in the past… we cover it all and will help you get back on track so both you and your kids can feel open and awesome about having ‘the talk’! 

Our inclination can be to avoid telling our kids about sex as a way to protect their innocence. But when has anyone ever made better choices by having less information? 

True empowerment comes when we are able to see the big picture.

Not.The.Talk is your go-to companion course that literally walks you step-by-step through every imaginable conversation and experience you will likely have surrounding ‘the talk’ with your child as they grow and mature.

We break down this process to make this EASY

Yes EASY (not terrifying or embarrassing) and we take out all of the guesswork around actually having “the talk” with your kids.

And don’t worry about if you think this ship has sailed, your kids are too old (or too young) or you’ve completely bombed this conversation in the past… we cover it all and will help you get back on track so both you and your kids can feel open and awesome about having ‘the talk’! 

How would it feel to go from overwhelmed (and a little terrified) to expert-level in just a few days!
"I have already found myself having more honest and open conversations with my kids about their bodies, relationships, and sex. I cannot recommend this enough for any other parents out there!" ~ Amber

What's Included

Module 1: What is this? 
This module provides a plan for teaching your children about their bodies, including using proper body part terminology (and why it is important) and walking them through internal and external anatomy graphics.

 You’ll receive: 

7 (age appropriate) anatomy graphics covering the internal and external reproductive anatomy for boys and girls, along with a full proof plan for introducing this topic to your child and starting this conversation.

 Additional Resources:

  • Audio that outlines talking to your kids about the differences between girls’ and boys’ body parts.
  • ​A breakdown of the various slang terms adults and kids often use for body parts and best practices for transitioning to using the correct anatomical names.
  • ​A step-by-step guide that explains how to talk to your kids about the importance of cleaning their body parts.

After this module you should be able to: 

  • Express why it is important for children to know the names of all of their body parts.
  • ​Teach your children where their sexual or private parts of their body are located internally and externally.  
  • ​Increase your comfort level in educating your kids about all their body parts.  
  • ​Teach your children how to clean and care for all their body parts. 
  • ​Identify your own values for teaching your children about their body parts can intentionally and unintentionally communicate to them. 
Module 2: What is that?  
Inside this module, we outline how to begin talking to your kids about puberty and the ways their bodies will change and a timeline for knowing what will come next.

 You’ll receive: 

Key terms kids are likely to search in Google about puberty and what Google fills in as they are typing... (Trust us… this one you’ve got to see)

 Additional Resources:

  • We’ll also give you our tried and true Puberty Fact Sheet that outlines all the stages of puberty - what happens first and how long each stage typically takes.
  • ​We’ll provide you with the tools to talk to your kids about how their body will change and how people of the opposite sex will change during puberty. 
  • ​And we’ll cover facts about menstruation, erections, body hair, acne, and more.

 After this module you should be able to: 

  • Express why it is important that your children know what to expect during puberty.
  • ​Teach your children how their bodies will change as they grow older.  
  • ​Increase your comfort level in talking about body changes your kids will experience in the future. 
  • ​Enhance your child’s self-confidence and body positivity by expressing approval for all bodies.
  • ​Identify the values you intentionally and unintentionally communicate to your children that can positively and negatively impact their body image, while teaching them about how their body will change over time.
Module 3: Where do babies come from?
This module covers talking to your kids about conception through child-birth. This module is not the sex talk. It starts with a sperm and egg meeting and goes through baby’s birth. 

 You’ll receive: 

Tips that teach parents how to discern what their child is asking when they say, “Where do babies come from?” and the best way to start and continue this conversation as we discuss what happens inside the uterus as a baby is forming and the natural progression to childbirth.

 Additional Resources:

  • ​Tools for teaching your kids where babies come from based on their readiness, and audio, so you can hear how we would say it and why we chose the wording we did. 
  • Role plays for talking to kids about their birth stories. 
  • ​Bonus Audio for talking to your kids about in vitro fertilization and artificial insemination. 

 After this module you should be able to: 

  • Recognize the question your child is really asking. (Sometimes they are not really asking what you think)
  • ​This module is not about sex, instead it addresses the curiosity your child has when they see a pregnant women.  
  • Teach your child the basics of childbirth. 
  • ​Teach your child where babies grow inside a woman’s body. 
  • ​Determine the values you want to share with your child about childbirth and those values you inherited, but want to leave behind.
Module 4: How are babies made?
This module walks you through talking to your kids about intercourse.

 You’ll receive: 

This module gives specific wording for how to respond when your child asks the big question! This is preparation for the 'sex conversation' (at the appropriate readiness level) and after this module you will be able to answer your child confidently and comfortably. This module will lay the foundation for many conversations in the future.  

 Additional Resources:

  • Conversation starters to help you initiate the conversation, by age six, if your child does not ask.
  • ​Detailed audio for three different levels of readiness, where you'll hear us model the conversation and outline the wording choices.  
  • Action tools modeling these conversations. 

 After this module you should be able to: 

  • Discern the readiness of your child to hear about the basic mechanics of sex.
  • ​Teach your child the facts about how babies are made (sperm meets egg). 
  • ​If they are ready, introduce your children to the concept of sex (how the sperm gets inside a woman).
  • If needed, introduce children to alternative forms of fertilization (IVF, insemination).
  • Determine the values you want to share with you child about sex and those values you inherited, but want to leave behind.
Module 5: Is this okay?
We cover normal childhood sexual behavior and how to accept or redirect children’s sexual behavior. 

 You’ll receive: 

This module is a doozy! It's laid out so you can quickly access info on any of these subjects without having to work your way through the entire module. We’ve covered everything from nudity to childhood sexual play and EVERYTHING in between.  This will be one of your key GO-TO modules for years to come! 

 Additional Resources:

  • ​​How to respond to normal childhood sexual play. 
  • ​Audios discussing normal childhood sexual behaviors.
  • ​Response techniques parents can use if they discover their child is engaging in childhood sexual play.

 After this module you should be able to: 

  • Identify behaviors that are normal, which often make parents feel uncomfortable.
  • ​Express your values around nudity, touching, and consent as well as communicate them to your children.
  • ​Identify ways you may unintentionally communicate discomfort or shame about a normal aspect of child sexual development.
  • ​Empower children to say no confidently and reinforce when they say no to others, if needed.
  • ​Determine boundaries you want to intentionally communicate to your children and those you don’t want to unintentionally communicate.
Module 6: Is that okay?
This module outlines behaviors that are rarely normal and may need additional attention from a pediatrician or mental health professional. 

 You’ll receive: 

We cover tips for identifying if childhood sexual play might cross the boundary into abnormal and what to do if it does. 

 Additional Resources:

  • ​​Information about behaviors that could put a child at greater risk for sexual assault, plus warning behaviors that could indicate a child has been a victim of sexual assault. 
  • ​The risks of children being exposed to porn and tips for responding, along with ​strategies for talking to your kids about porn and tools for helping them avoid exposure. 
  • ​​Bonus Audio that covers talking to your kids about STIs/STDs and not using sexual jokes or insults. 

 After this module you should be able to: 

  • Define behaviors that could put a child at great risk for sexual assault.
  • ​Identify behaviors that could indicate a child has been a victim of sexual assault.
  • Outline activities that could result in an unhealthy relationship with sex.
  • ​Express your values around pornography.
  • Clarify what an STI or STD is and how to talk about them.
Module 7: Why do people do that? 
We cover helping children develop healthy relationships and how to incorporate discussions about sex for pleasure. 

 You’ll receive: 

In this module our goal is to give you the knowledge and tools necessary to help you help your child identify healthy and unhealthy relationships.

 Additional Resources:

  • ​​You’ll walk away with options for talking to your kids about contraception and protection, so when they find out about sex and pregnancy they know there are natural and medicated ways to prevent pregnancy. 
  • ​Guidance on helping children identify healthy and unhealthy relationships. 
  • ​We’ve included a fun media activity to guide parents and children in a discussion about healthy relationships using a television show. 

 After this module you should be able to: 

  • Talk to your children about relationships.
  • ​Support your child in identifying characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships.
  • ​Communicate with your children about sex for pleasure and connection. 
  • ​Outline birth control and safe sex options for kids of all ages.
  • ​Express your values around dating and relationships.
We put everything in one place, so you don’t have to go searching for answers!
We give you scripts, anatomy graphics, extensive audio, and a framework you can use in every conversation, as well as animated videos to model how the conversations can go.
You can feel confident knowing that the framework we provide parents, works with ANY conversation!
We put everything in one place, so you don’t have to go searching for answers!
We give you scripts, anatomy graphics, extensive audio, and a framework you can use in every conversation, as well as animated videos to model how the conversations can go.
You can feel confident knowing that the framework we provide parents, works with ANY conversation!
Not.The.Talk. offers you a one stop shop with everything you need to be confident and prepared, no matter what your child needs to know about sex, sexuality, their bodies, and relationships.
Our goal is for you to have the words when you need them... (and that time is coming).

Start today... annihilate the awkward and step up as the go-to expert for your kids!

It’s time to lay a strong foundation now, so your kids will be PREPARED when the stakes get higher.

Our real life examples make for some hilarious commentary… Reassuring you that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Not.The.Talk. offers you a one stop shop with everything you need to be confident and prepared, no matter what your child needs to know about sex, sexuality, their bodies, and relationships.
Our goal is for you to have the words when you need them... (and that time is coming).

Start today... annihilate the awkward and step up as the go-to expert for your kids!

It’s time to lay a strong foundation now, so your kids will be PREPARED when the stakes get higher.

Our real life examples make for some hilarious commentary… Reassuring you that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

If you don’t feel like the parent who can confidently say,“No question can scare me...bring it on!”... 

then you deserve your money back.
What once seemed impossible is not only possible, but is made easy with Not. The. Talk! We guarantee you WILL talk to your kids with confidence.   
You'll begin to find everyday situations to talk to your kids about sex and prepare them for the future WITHOUT the one-time-sweaty-palmed-heart-racing conversation!  

If you're not satisfied for any reason, simply send us an email at: info@ohmywordconversations within 30 days of purchase and we will happily issue you a full refund!
If you don’t feel like the parent who can confidently say,“No question can scare me...bring it on!”... 

then you deserve your money back.
What once seemed impossible is not only possible, but is made easy with Not. The. Talk! We guarantee you WILL talk to your kids with confidence.   

You'll begin to find everyday situations to talk to your kids about sex and prepare them for the future WITHOUT the one-time-sweaty-palmed-heart-racing conversation!  

If you're not satisfied for any reason, simply send us an email at: info@ohmywordconversations within 30 days of purchase and we will happily issue you a full refund!
Exclusive N.T.T. Bonuses:
16 Parent Scripts 
Have you always wanted to have open dialogue with your kids around sex, but didn’t have the words? With our exclusive N.T.T. Scripts, you will have the words to say right there in front of you so you can be confident that what you’re saying to your kids will give them a healthy foundation and understanding of their bodies, sexuality, and sex.
  • No more winging it! These scripts will give you the confidence you need to get the conversation started!
9 Animated Videos
How helpful would it be to actually SEE what these easy, casual conversations look like in real life so you can emulate them with your kids. With this knowledge under your belt, your kids will see that you are the expert and you’ll be one step closer to becoming their go-to person!  
  • Seeing is believing and we know if you can see it in our animated videos, you can do it. Let these animated videos be your guide.
7 Guided Workbooks
Did you know that people who take written notes are likely to remember 70% more than those who only listen to audio? Follow along with our guided workbooks that include summaries, space to take notes, reflection questions, and so much more.
  • Walk away with 7 guided workbooks chalked full of learning objections, value reflection questions, Oh. Moments and references.

Not. The. Talk.

  •  Comprehensive workbook for each module containing anatomy graphics, learning objectives, scripts and reflection questions (Value: $47)
  • ​9 Animated teaching videos (Value: $197)
  • 30 + Audio Trainings and Roleplays (Value: $197) 
  • 9 Parent Conversation Scripts (Value: $47)
  • ​Private Facebook Community (Value: $147)
  • ​Mastering “The Talk” (Priceless!)

Total Value: $635 USD

Regular Price: $197 USD

Today's Price Only:  $47 USD

Not. The. Talk. 

  •  Comprehensive workbook for each module containing anatomy graphics, learning objectives, scripts and reflection questions (Value: $47)
  • ​9 Animated teaching videos (Value: $197)
  • 30 + Audio Trainings and Roleplays (Value: $197) 
  • 9 Parent Conversation Scripts (Value: $47)
  • ​Private Facebook Community (Value: $147)
  • ​Mastering “The Talk” (Priceless!)

Total Value: $635 USD

Regular Price: $197 USD

Today's Price Only:  $47 USD

Hi! We are Shannon & Kristin...

Dr. Shannon Deer is an award winning professor and assistant dean at Texas A&M University. Her research focuses on sex education, sex trafficking, and recovery from sexual exploitation. Her study on the impact on adults of experiencing abstinence-only education in church as adolescence motivated her to start Oh. My. Word. Shannon's research has been published in leading international journals. She also has a book in the publication process providing strategies for supporting women who experienced sex trafficking situations. Shannon has won many different teaching awards for her innovative teaching of adults. Through her research experience, Shannon brings an evidence-based approach to the course.

Kristin was a parent educator at Texas Children’s Hospital for almost a decade. She has the content expertise and the teaching experience to bring you what you need to know, with a touch of humor! As a mother of four, Kristin also knows exactly where you are coming from. She has talked to many parents about their fears, concerns, and dreams related to talking to their kids about sex. She has heard every discomfort and fear in the book. Through humor and evidenced-based information, Kristin has eased many parents concerns. She can help ease yours as well.

Hi! We are Shannon & Kristin...

Dr. Shannon Deer is an award winning professor and assistant dean at Texas A&M University. Her research focuses on sex education, sex trafficking, and recovery from sexual exploitation. Her study on the impact on adults of experiencing abstinence-only education in church as adolescence motivated her to start Oh. My. Word. Shannon's research has been published in leading international journals. She also has a book in the publication process providing strategies for supporting women who experienced sex trafficking situations. Shannon has won many different teaching awards for her innovative teaching of adults. Through her research experience, Shannon brings an evidence-based approach to the course.

Kristin was a parent educator at Texas Children’s Hospital for almost a decade. She has the content expertise and the teaching experience to bring you what you need to know, with a touch of humor! As a mother of four, Kristin also knows exactly where you are coming from. She has talked to many parents about their fears, concerns, and dreams related to talking to their kids about sex. She has heard every discomfort and fear in the book. Through humor and evidenced-based information, Kristin has eased many parents concerns. She can help ease yours as well.

HEAR FROM PARENTS JUST LIKE YOU!

I mostly parent the way I was raised, so in this general arena, I would be lying if I said I was educating and informing my kids well. OH MY WORD has empowered me as a mother to fill in the blanks of where my parents left off. Listening to this course made me feel like I was talking to two well-informed big sisters who just wanted to simply present the facts and leave me to insert my values. It wasn’t easy listening to sometimes uncomfortable topics, but doing the hard work as a parent never is. In the short time I’ve listened, I already feel more confident in taking the tiny moments to engage and inform my kids. I can’t wait to get my husband to listen too!
- Natalie R.
I have absolutely loved “The Talk”. As an RN I assumed I had a pretty good handle on everything that I needed to speak to my son & daughter about, but boy was I wrong! The course does a great job providing evidence based research along with much needed comic relief all throughout. The videos show how easily any uncomfortable conversation can be brought up & how to say the uncomfortable facts. The course does a great job of not stepping on anyone’s values, but instead focuses on the facts!
- alici c.
So thorough, honest, and practical, Oh. My. Word. has given me much to think about and discuss with my co-parent and especially, my 3 little ones! I found the entire course to be engaging and tailored to help me navigate an aspect of parenting that is so crucial! It is rare that we, as parents, get a workbook on how to do this thing called parenting, but Oh. My. Word. literally wrote out the script to follow in some instances. I have already found myself having more honest and open conversations with my kids about their bodies, relationships, and sex. I cannot recommend this enough for any other parents out there! They say it takes a village and I hope my whole village will use Oh. My. Word. so we can have impact on our own and each others' kids, as they are the future!
- amber f.

HEAR FROM PARENTS JUST LIKE YOU!

I mostly parent the way I was raised, so in this general arena, I would be lying if I said I was educating and informing my kids well. OH MY WORD has empowered me as a mother to fill in the blanks of where my parents left off. Listening to this course made me feel like I was talking to two well-informed big sisters who just wanted to simply present the facts and leave me to insert my values. It wasn’t easy listening to sometimes uncomfortable topics, but doing the hard work as a parent never is. In the short time I’ve listened, I already feel more confident in taking the tiny moments to engage and inform my kids. I can’t wait to get my husband to listen too!
- Natalie R.
I have absolutely loved “The Talk”. As an RN I assumed I had a pretty good handle on everything that I needed to speak to my son & daughter about, but boy was I wrong! The course does a great job providing evidence based research along with much needed comic relief all throughout. The videos show how easily any uncomfortable conversation can be brought up & how to say the uncomfortable facts. The course does a great job of not stepping on anyone’s values, but instead focuses on the facts!
- alici c.
So thorough, honest, and practical, Oh. My. Word. has given me much to think about and discuss with my co-parent and especially, my 3 little ones! I found the entire course to be engaging and tailored to help me navigate an aspect of parenting that is so crucial! It is rare that we, as parents, get a workbook on how to do this thing called parenting, but Oh. My. Word. literally wrote out the script to follow in some instances. I have already found myself having more honest and open conversations with my kids about their bodies, relationships, and sex. I cannot recommend this enough for any other parents out there! They say it takes a village and I hope my whole village will use Oh. My. Word. so we can have impact on our own and each others' kids, as they are the future!
- amber f.

Not. The. Talk.

  •  Comprehensive workbook for each module containing anatomy graphics, learning objectives, scripts and reflection questions (Value: $47)
  • ​9 Animated teaching videos (Value: $197)
  • 30 + Audio Trainings and Roleplays (Value: $197) 
  • 9 Parent Conversation Scripts (Value: $47)
  • ​Private Facebook Community (Value: $147)
  • ​Mastering “The Talk” (Priceless!)

Total Value: $635 USD

Regular Price: $197 USD

Today's Price Only:  $47 USD

You've Asked... And We've Answered!

Is there a way to talk to my kids about sex without it being awkward?
The good news is that after you start Not. The. Talk. talking to your kids about sex does not have to be awkward or complicated for either of you! We will help you move away from the idea that we have one big conversation, and into the idea that many frequent casual conversations will help us break down "the talk" into bite sized conversations.
In fact, studies show talking to your kids about sex can strengthen the parent-child bond. So, using Not. The. Talk to help you talk to your kids about sex is actually a way to create a stronger relationship with them for life and eliminate the awkward. 
What if my child is too young?


The earlier you start naturally working these conversations in, the better. With Not. The. Talk. you can start today, even if your kids are in diapers or middle school. After all, they start learning their bodies on the changing table! We will help you start talking to them about important topics early like their bodies and appropriate touch. We will move through the later years with you, with puberty and wet dreams. The earlier you start, the more naturally the conversations will grow as they grow!

What if my kids are too old?


Fear not! It's never too late. Okay, if they're walking down the aisle and you haven't had "the talk" yet....it might be too late. But otherwise, Not. The. Talk. will help you pick up the conversation regardless of how old they are. You are not alone. Most parents feel that their kids are too young to learn about sex. We don't want to believe that our babies are growing up! You may have to make up for some lost time, but it's never too late to start having these critical conversations with them.
Is Not. The. Talk. based on your opinions or facts?

Shannon's expertise is research, specific to sex education and recovery from sexual exploitation. So everything you hear in Not. The. Talk. is evidence-based, rock-solid and up-to-date research-based information. Though you will get to know us and our individual personalities as you move through Not. The. Talk., we decided early on that we didn't want our personal opinions to cloud the course or get in the way of our learners. Only you can decide what is best for your family and we would never want to presume otherwise!
What if I never get the hang of talking to casually with my kids about sex?
You and every other parent! You are not alone in this, and that is why we built Not. The. Talk. in the first place. Most generations have not done this conversation well. Parents don't avoid "the talk" because they don't care, but because they don't have the language to be able to talk to their kids. But now they do! We promise you will leave the course feeling confident and ready to start changing the language for your kids, and for the generations to come.
What if I tried talking to my kids about sex and I messed it up?

We've got you! We have heard it all - kids run away, scream, cry - when parents have tried to talk to their kids about sex without taking Not. The. Talk. In Not. The. Talk., we give you the words you need for a redo. You can back up and build slowly to a solid foundation where you and your children are comfortable talking about sex. We provide dialogue, written scripts, anatomy graphics, and animated video examples of what it looks like to have confident, comfortable, frequent conversations with your children related to their bodies and sex.
What if my kids don’t want to talk to me about sex or refuse to listen when I try to engage in the conversation?

When you take Not. The. Talk., you will get tools for starting the conversations small and continuing to build on the foundation you are laying. With our approach, your kids will start to open up. Especially, if you are starting the conversation when they are older (over the age of six), it may take some time for them to open up, so we help you start small and quickly build up to where you need to be.
Even if your kids feel awkward at first, they do want to hear from you about sex. Research shows kids do want their parents to talk to them about "a wide range of topics related to sex, and believe these discussions should be early and often" Pariera & Brody (2018). We give you the resources to talk to your kids early and often in short, casual conversations.
What if I have never talked to my kids about sex?



You will feel right at home with us in Not. The. Talk. We will meet you where you are in these conversations. We will take you from the very beginning all the way through the heavy hitting conversations that crop up by middle school. The Readiness component of our Readiness. Facts. Honesty framework will help you assess what level of conversation your child needs. We provide you the tools wherever your child is so you can bring the conversation they need today and in the future. 
What if I have talked to my kids about childbirth, and even a little about intercourse, but I have not talked about some of the heavier conversations?
There’s a lot more to “the talk” than just sex. We have talked to A LOT of parents about this topic, both before and after completing Not. The. Talk. A majority of the parents we have interviewed initially thought they had talked to their kids about sex, but later realized that there is so much more to the story than teaching their kids about intercourse. One thing they all had in common was that they all later realized they weren't doing quite as good of a job of having these difficult conversations as they had initially believed. Not. The. Talk. has truly transformed "the talk" from a nerve-wracking-sweaty-palm-conversation to a relaxed and normal part of everyday life for these families. They realized that if they could master THIS conversation, then they could talk to their kids about anything!
Is this a religious course?


No. Though Shannon and I are both believers, but this is not a Christian-based course. For one, we wanted this to help all families, not only families of one particular faith. And two, we know that values within the church are vastly different. Even Shannon and I, who were born into the same family don't agree on everything (okay, maybe quite a lot). But guess what? That's okay! We found a way to present the facts to families and then help them determine their own values. It's a beautiful thing!
Is Not. The. Talk. for kids?


No! We would never presume to know your personal values when it comes to sex. Not. The. Talk. is directed only toward you, as a parent, though you may find that some of the audio or animated videos would be helpful for your kids to view at your discretion. But ultimately, no one will do a better job of teaching your kids than YOU!
Won’t my kids learn everything they need to know about sex in school?
Kids learn a lot about sex in school, but they typically learn it from their uninformed friends and not from health teachers.  Unfortunately, the sex education provided in American schools is nearly non-existent, especially in abstinence-only states. You are the best resource for your kids as the burden falls on the family to talk about sex.

What if I want to take the course but don’t really have time?
We know how busy parents are, and we specifically designed the course with this in mind. Not. The. Talk. was created to meet parents where they are...whether it's while sitting in the carpool line, while driving to work, just before going to bed, on the treadmill, while vacuuming the rug... whenever and wherever! In fact, the busier you are, the more time you will have to listen!

How long do I have access to the course?
You have unlimited course access!  The course will never expire! We want parents to be able to listen to the course and then reference back as needed anytime! After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like - across any and all devices you own.
When does the course start and finish?
The course starts now and you can complete it at your own pace - you decide when to start and when to finish.
Plus, you’ll always have Not.The.Talk in your back pocket as an incredible resource as your child grows and matures, so you always feel prepared and confident about the NEXT ‘sex topic’ conversation or question! 
Can’t I just buy a book and give it to my child to read (or to read with them)? Why do I need to take a course?
There are no books in the world that can communicate your family’s values about sex to your kids. Taking Not. The. Talk. will help you determine your values and communicate them to your children. They won’t be armed with just the facts. They will be armed with what you believe as well.
Will I make my kids feel guilt and shame about sex if I talk to them about it?

We have revolutionized "the talk" and leave guilt & shame in the past when it comes to talking to our kids about sex! In our course, we will show you alternative ways to talk to your kids about sex, designed to prevent them from experiencing guilt and shame, while also making good choices for themselves later in life. We are turning the "old way" on its head. Framing sex in a bad light and using scare tactics are a thing of the past!
Do I have to sit down and tell my kid everything about sex?


Not all at once! A fellow sex educator, LeAnne Gardner says that talking to kids about sex is not one big event, it’s 300 one-minute conversations. When you take Not. The. Talk. you will have all the resources you need to have these conversations casually and frequently, like talking with your kids about what they want for dinner.

You've Asked... And We've Answered!

Is there a way to talk to my kids about sex without it being awkward?
The good news is that after you start Not. The. Talk. talking to your kids about sex does not have to be awkward or complicated for either of you! We will help you move away from the idea that we have one big conversation, and into the idea that many frequent casual conversations will help us break down "the talk" into bite sized conversations.
In fact, studies show talking to your kids about sex can strengthen the parent-child bond. So, using Not. The. Talk to help you talk to your kids about sex is actually a way to create a stronger relationship with them for life and eliminate the awkward. 
What if my child is too young?
The earlier you start naturally working these conversations in, the better. With Not. The. Talk. you can start today, even if your kids are in diapers or middle school. After all, they start learning their bodies on the changing table! We will help you start talking to them about important topics early like their bodies and appropriate touch. We will move through the later years with you, with puberty and wet dreams. The earlier you start, the more naturally the conversations will grow as they grow!

What if my kids are too old?
Fear not! It's never too late. Okay, if they're walking down the aisle and you haven't had "the talk" yet....it might be too late. But otherwise, Not. The. Talk. will help you pick up the conversation regardless of how old they are. You are not alone. Most parents feel that their kids are too young to learn about sex. We don't want to believe that our babies are growing up! You may have to make up for some lost time, but it's never too late to start having these critical conversations with them.
Is Not. The. Talk. based on your opinions or facts?
Shannon's expertise is research, specific to sex education and recovery from sexual exploitation. So everything you hear in Not. The. Talk. is evidence-based, rock-solid and up-to-date research-based information. Though you will get to know us and our individual personalities as you move through Not. The. Talk., we decided early on that we didn't want our personal opinions to cloud the course or get in the way of our learners. Only you can decide what is best for your family and we would never want to presume otherwise!
What if I never get the hang of talking to casually with my kids about sex?
You and every other parent! You are not alone in this, and that is why we built Not. The. Talk. in the first place. Most generations have not done this conversation well. Parents don't avoid "the talk" because they don't care, but because they don't have the language to be able to talk to their kids. But now they do! We promise you will leave the course feeling confident and ready to start changing the language for your kids, and for the generations to come.
What if I tried talking to my kids about sex and I messed it up?
We've got you! We have heard it all - kids run away, scream, cry - when parents have tried to talk to their kids about sex without taking Not. The. Talk. In Not. The. Talk., we give you the words you need for a redo. You can back up and build slowly to a solid foundation where you and your children are comfortable talking about sex. We provide dialogue, written scripts, anatomy graphics, and animated video examples of what it looks like to have confident, comfortable, frequent conversations with your children related to their bodies and sex.
What if my kids don’t want to talk to me about sex or refuse to listen when I try to engage in the conversation?
When you take Not. The. Talk., you will get tools for starting the conversations small and continuing to build on the foundation you are laying. With our approach, your kids will start to open up. Especially, if you are starting the conversation when they are older (over the age of six), it may take some time for them to open up, so we help you start small and quickly build up to where you need to be.
Even if your kids feel awkward at first, they do want to hear from you about sex. Research shows kids do want their parents to talk to them about "a wide range of topics related to sex, and believe these discussions should be early and often" Pariera & Brody (2018). We give you the resources to talk to your kids early and often in short, casual conversations.
What if I have never talked to my kids about sex?
You will feel right at home with us in Not. The. Talk. We will meet you where you are in these conversations. We will take you from the very beginning all the way through the heavy hitting conversations that crop up by middle school. The Readiness component of our Readiness. Facts. Honesty framework will help you assess what level of conversation your child needs. We provide you the tools wherever your child is so you can bring the conversation they need today and in the future. 
What if I have talked to my kids about childbirth, and even a little about intercourse, but I have not talked about some of the heavier conversations?
There’s a lot more to “the talk” than just sex. We have talked to A LOT of parents about this topic, both before and after completing Not. The. Talk. A majority of the parents we have interviewed initially thought they had talked to their kids about sex, but later realized that there is so much more to the story than teaching their kids about intercourse. One thing they all had in common was that they all later realized they weren't doing quite as good of a job of having these difficult conversations as they had initially believed. Not. The. Talk. has truly transformed "the talk" from a nerve-wracking-sweaty-palm-conversation to a relaxed and normal part of everyday life for these families. They realized that if they could master THIS conversation, then they could talk to their kids about anything!
Is this a religious course?
No. Though Shannon and I are both believers, but this is not a Christian-based course. For one, we wanted this to help all families, not only families of one particular faith. And two, we know that values within the church are vastly different. Even Shannon and I, who were born into the same family don't agree on everything (okay, maybe quite a lot). But guess what? That's okay! We found a way to present the facts to families and then help them determine their own values. It's a beautiful thing!
Is Not. The. Talk. for kids?
No! We would never presume to know your personal values when it comes to sex. Not. The. Talk. is directed only toward you, as a parent, though you may find that some of the audio or animated videos would be helpful for your kids to view at your discretion. But ultimately, no one will do a better job of teaching your kids than YOU!
Won’t my kids learn everything they need to know about sex in school?
Kids learn a lot about sex in school, but they typically learn it from their uninformed friends and not from health teachers.  Unfortunately, the sex education provided in American schools is nearly non-existent, especially in abstinence-only states. You are the best resource for your kids as the burden falls on the family to talk about sex.
What if I want to take the course but don’t really have time?
We know how busy parents are, and we specifically designed the course with this in mind. Not. The. Talk. was created to meet parents where they are...whether it's while sitting in the carpool line, while driving to work, just before going to bed, on the treadmill, while vacuuming the rug... whenever and wherever! In fact, the busier you are, the more time you will have to listen!

How long do I have access to the course?
You have unlimited course access!  The course will never expire! We want parents to be able to listen to the course and then reference back as needed anytime! After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like - across any and all devices you own.
When does the course start and finish?
The course starts now and you can complete it at your own pace - you decide when to start and when to finish.
Plus, you’ll always have Not.The.Talk in your back pocket as an incredible resource as your child grows and matures, so you always feel prepared and confident about the NEXT ‘sex topic’ conversation or question! 
Can’t I just buy a book and give it to my child to read (or to read with them)? Why do I need to take a course?
There are no books in the world that can communicate your family’s values about sex to your kids. Taking Not. The. Talk. will help you determine your values and communicate them to your children. They won’t be armed with just the facts. They will be armed with what you believe as well.
Will I make my kids feel guilt and shame about sex if I talk to them about it?
We have revolutionized "the talk" and leave guilt & shame in the past when it comes to talking to our kids about sex! In our course, we will show you alternative ways to talk to your kids about sex, designed to prevent them from experiencing guilt and shame, while also making good choices for themselves later in life. We are turning the "old way" on its head. Framing sex in a bad light and using scare tactics are a thing of the past!
Do I have to sit down and tell my kid everything about sex?
Not all at once! A fellow sex educator, LeAnne Gardner says that talking to kids about sex is not one big event, it’s 300 one-minute conversations. When you take Not. The. Talk. you will have all the resources you need to have these conversations casually and frequently, like talking with your kids about what they want for dinner.

You have two choices....

1. Pretend that you didn’t see this perfectly packaged simple solution. Leave the offer on the table, say you’re just too busy, tell yourself you’ll figure it out one way or another and convince yourself that you’ll talk to them ONE DAY…  

OR

2. Become your child’s “go-to expert”. Be the confident mom or dad that your kid can come to to talk about ANYTHING…. Their bodies, sexuality, sex, feelings, and relationships.
Purchase Not. The. Talk. Today! 
You don’t have to go it alone… and neither do your children!

You have two choices....

1. Pretend that you didn’t see this perfectly packaged simple solution. Leave the offer on the table, say you’re just too busy, tell yourself you’ll figure it out one way or another and convince yourself that you’ll talk to them ONE DAY…  

OR

2. Become your child’s “go-to expert”. Be the confident mom or dad that your kid can come to to talk about ANYTHING…. Their bodies, sexuality, sex, feelings, and relationships.
Purchase Not. The. Talk. Today! 

You don’t have to go it alone… and neither do your children!

Not. The. Talk.

  •  Comprehensive workbook for each module containing anatomy graphics, learning objectives, scripts and reflection questions (Value: $47)
  • ​9 Animated teaching videos (Value: $197)
  • 30 + Audio Trainings and Roleplays (Value: $197) 
  • 9 Parent Conversation Scripts (Value: $47)
  • ​Private Facebook Community (Value: $147)
  • ​Mastering “The Talk” (Priceless!)

Total Value: $635 USD

Regular Price: $197 USD

Today's Price Only:  $47 USD

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Not. The. Talk.

  •  Comprehensive workbook for each module containing anatomy graphics, learning objectives, scripts and reflection questions (Value: $47)
  • ​9 Animated teaching videos (Value: $197)
  • 30 + Audio Trainings and Roleplays (Value: $197) 
  • 9 Parent Conversation Scripts (Value: $47)
  • ​Private Facebook Community (Value: $147)
  • ​Mastering “The Talk” (Priceless!)

Total Value: $635 USD

Regular Price: $197 USD

Today's Price Only:  $47 USD